Holidays & Healing Your Inner Child

Full Moon November 2015 

As we move in to the winter in the northern hemisphere, we are called to go within. The Full Moon of November has asked us to release what no longer serves. It is a time of quiet reflection, and time in solitude is important. 

Do you find it challenging or difficult to go within and really see what needs releasing? Sometimes it can be hard, especially when it is deep or deals with family and loved ones. It’s even harder when you are with family, get all triggered up and have no idea why. 

The holidays are a great catalyst to healing work, especially healing the inner child. Last week when my dad was here for Thanksgiving, I realized that I was a bit wonky. It felt like my energy was everywhere, nothing really settled. I was told by a great friend to work with the inner child, because she gets triggered when my dad is around. 

So of course, I went to work.  Interestingly enough, not only did my inner child need to know that it’s ok to be an adult when Daddy’s around – but that she can have a sense of self. 

Small children don’t have a sense of self, but are developing one. They are very sensitive to the responses and reactions of their care takers. As children are in a dominant Theta brainwave until they are 6 or 7 years old, everything they hear, see and experience goes right to the subconscious mind as programs. These messages received from the parents shape the development of the self of the child. 

My little sister and I.

 

DISCLAIMER:   I am not a psychologist or social worker – I have only read much and done a lot of healing myself. I do have a deep spiritual connection, and draw from that.

What I do know is that when my Daddy is around, I am not the Katie that I know as a Spiritual Guide, Energy Worker, and ThetaHealer®.  I am not even the wife that I know.  No. My inner child, the one who was neglected, forgotten at parties while her parents drugged and drank, crying in the crib, left to her own devices comes to the surface. She comes to ask for healing. She comes to learn what safety feels like. For years I could not hear her. 

THIS year however, is different.  The self-awareness is different than ever before. See, during a Divine Money course, I got triggered…hard.  I have had this sensation in my back for nearly a month. I know it’s not a physical problem. No, this is entirely spiritual notification that something needs healing. 

The thing is, I can’t see it. Oh, I have tried! I have asked to talk to this sensation. I have gone to do a reading to see what is up. However, the subconscious knows that this issue is painful – and blocks me away from it. What this looks like for me is I feel like I am going to fall asleep. My eyes get heavy and I feel like I could take a nap!  So, herein lies my gratitude for fellow psychics. I can do this healing for myself, however, help was necessary to see where to go do some healing. 

In talking to my lovely psychic friend Dee, she saw the inner child. She told me to have a conversation with my inner child and to teach her. So that’s what I did. Right away I began doing healing work.

I found I had no sense of self.  I gave it away, to my daddy, to my husband, to men. 

OH. MY. 

Well, no wonder I struggled so around family! The knowledgeable, spiritual guide disappears when I am around my family of origin. Now I even understand why I was so hesitant for my husband to come to particular places with me – those were my safe places, where I could be an authority on something – my spiritual techniques, modality and spirituality. Enter my husband and BAM – sense of self diminished.

After working on that and getting a sense of self, and keeping it, the energy and interactions with my dad and husband changed.  I feel stronger. I feel a sense of me, even when I am with them. I feel OK being me and being knowledgeable. 

Christmas at my grandma's house

 

There is still more healing to do. This has been a magnificent start in this particular arena. These are abuse issues coming up and they can be very difficult for one to see for themselves. Abuse can be taken on in various ways – from something as severe as molestation or being beaten to children teasing each other on the playground. For me, teasing was very hurtful. Chances are good there are lots of abuse issues needing healing, and to many might seem silly. 

If you have ever really wondered where the kindness is in the world – you may be dealing with energies and programs of abuse, even if it makes no sense or there is no history of what would be obvious abuse. How it got there matters not. The details really don’t matter at all. What does matter is how it affects you and whether or not you heal from it. 

It might take time, and that’s ok. Peeling back layers is ok. Using various techniques is ok. Personally, I like seeing therapists. I go get triggered all to smithereens then either clear it myself or work on it in session swaps with colleagues. 

The holidays, regardless of what holidays you celebrate, are a great time to be really self-aware. Most people spend more time with their family of origin. If this time is stressful, or you dread it – chances are good you are being triggered. Your inner child may be asking for help.  Ask what your inner child needs. Going into meditation and having a conversation with your inner child can be magnificently healing. As an adult now, you can give your inner child the love, acceptance and feeling of safety that might be missing. You can teach your inner child that there is a safe place to be! 

Use the holidays to take a look and be aware of issues coming up asking to be healed. It is worth it. Get help if you need to.  If you have trouble seeing what it is, then help is really needed to see what it is. It’s ok!

You deserve to have the happiest life you can have – and that includes being able to hold that happiness during holidays, and any time you are with your family of origin. 

You are loved, greatly. 

 

You are worthy of happiness. 

 

You deserve to have a strong sense of self. 

 

You deserve to enjoy your life and all the celebrations you choose to engage in. 

It is your life. Not your parents’ life. Not your family of origin’s life. Your life. It is possible to maintain your own inner sense of peace, joy and happiness regardless of who you are around. 

That power is yours. 

For more information or spiritual guidance toward healing, check out:
http://awakentheinnerlight.com/holidayspecials2015.html