Are You Rejecting What You Really, Really, Really Want?

Do you believe you are creating your life and the experiences you have? Are you getting what you really, really, really want...or are you rejecting it? 

Or is it more like wham!

You hit the wall....again.

Would you like to see things in your life shift more toward what you want? Such as finances feeling better, relationships healing and improving, your psychic senses opening up, feeling more connected to those you are closest to, your body feeling and getting better every day, more energy to enjoy your life?

Maybe you are manifesting exactly what you want and you LOVE every bit of it, and you are super happy. If this is you – congratulations! Seriously, that is awesome!

If you are seeing lots of stuff in your life that you don’t like (and see no reason for), or simply want to improve upon what you are already doing, then it’s time to take a look at the blocks to manifesting.

3 Biggest Blocks to Manifesting

       Resentment, Regret, Rejection ~ The first two lead to the last.

You may be thinking that you don’t reject money, or love or health or anything else for that matter. Oh, but you do. In some subtle way, you do. Even with the amazing mantra of “I accept, I accept, I accept” chances are you are still rejecting the very thing you are working to manifest.

What Resentment looks like:

 Resentment looks like judgement, blame, complaining, jealousy / envy, insecurity.

In Money:

•  “Who needs a 5,000 squarefoot house?” 

• “Why would someone spend $50,000 on a car?”

• “Whole Foods is sooo expensive, if you can afford to shop there, you’ve got too much money!”

These are just a few things that indicate judgement, which may hold jealousy or envy. While you may choose to do something different with that kind of income, judging others for how they spend their money emphasizes your feeling of lack. 

In Love: 

• ·         “Where are all the good men/women?” “All the good ones are taken”(lack of, none for me)

• ·         “Mr. /Ms. Right just doesn’t exist” (complaining) “Soul mate…yeah right, no such thing!” (lack of belief and faith)

• ·         “They all leave me, every time!”  “They all cheat eventually!” (blame)

These are all lamenting what is missing. Nowhere here is there any gratitude or appreciation for those who DO love you. So, what happens if you really let someone love you? What if you really let someone in romantically? …. Seriously, answer those questions. Feel into your body for resistance, even the slightest tinge. 

In Health: 

• ·         “Look at her – she must starve herself!” (judgement)

• ·         “I can’t exercise, I don’t have time” (avoiding)

• ·         “Fat people are harder to kidnap hahaha!” (joking that covers up feeling a lack of safety/insecurity).

All these feelings, thoughts and even jokes about can stop you from having. What happens if you have money?  What happens if you really allow yourself to love another completely, and allow them to love you completely? What happens if you really are fit and healthy?

What Regret looks like:

Regret often looks like guilt.

•  “There are others out there with less than I have, I do what I can to help them.” (giving away so much that you hurt yourself, altruism)

•    “You are sooooo good to me! Too good to me!” (feeling undeserving/unworthy of healthy love)

•  “Every time I attempt a healthier lifestyle, my family teases me for being a ‘health nut’” (guilt leads to resuming unhealthy patterns)

So what does this mean??  Rejection.

When resentment and rejection/ guilt are prevalent, or even present, you automatically reject what you want. You cancel out your manifesting work. 

The reasons and details vary as every individual has a unique set of beliefs, subconscious programs and cultural conditioning.

If you can afford that 5,000 squarefoot house, and others will be jealous of you, reject you, you’ll become corrupt….or fill in your own blank….you will inherently reject the ability to afford such a home.

If you have a great relationship and start feeling like they’re getting too close, or you feel like you don’t deserve such a great love  – you will inherently push them away.

If you fear for your physical safety or fear no longer belonging to your family, you will reject health.

It happens, all the time. Sometimes it is very subtle, sometimes glaringly obvious. Often we can see such things in others but have trouble seeing them in ourselves. Use that to your advantage.

The First Step to Change: Self Awareness

First, become an observer of your feelings, your phrases both in word and thought, your behaviour.  These three are your first signals of what you really believe, what your subconscious programs are and how you have been culturally conditioned. When it is easier to see the programs, beliefs and conditioning of others, use it to look within! Your symptoms might be different, but the programs the same or very similar.

Being aware of yourself, your feelings and thoughts is absolutely key to knowing what needs shifting. You can do all sorts of releasing rituals, energy work, prayer, whatever you like, and you will see improvement. If you don’t go deep enough, the issues will return. They may show up in a different way, but they will return. The block may be smaller – but it’s still there. 

Looking For Every Aspect is Important

Like the facets of a shimmering jewel, we need all aspects to be clear and in harmony. Getting cleared from every aspect is really necessary for the entire block to dissipate and be gone. To do that, ask the questions from high school English class: Who, What, When, Where, Why, HOW.  Answer them. Who said? Why is this? How is this?  BTW: “How is this?” and “What am I getting out of this?” automatically trigger the subconscious mind.

Be Gentle with Yourself

You are on a journey, not seeking a destination. Allow yourself the time and grace to learn how to be self aware. Self awareness is simply the beginning….allow yourself the time, without dallying about in your growth.  Notice that you’re dallying about? Well, that’s simply avoidance. It happens sometimes. Take the next step. Release the resentment. Release the regret. When you really get some of these cleared out, the rejection (and fear of rejection) begins to fall away. Then you see things begin to fall into your lap….

See your manifesting being visible, receivable, and effective!