Happy New Year 2016! The Law of Action

Today is a great day for releasing what no longer serves you. Even if it is just a little, it is movement and space opening.  In order to receive new energy, new “things”, new anything…at some point you must release. If your closet is full of clothes and you simply keep buying more eventually you won’t be able to put anything new in the closet, and what is there will be so smashed together that it will eventually lose proper functionality. 

Energy works the same.  To get the most benefit from anything you do, there needs to be room to move. This is why clearing your space, auric field and your mind is so important. Chances are good that when you think of “clearings”, you think of clearing away energy that is other than yours; other beings, thought forms, psychic hooks, cords, debris and the like.  This is very important – if you are clearing regularly, keep it up. If you are not clearing regularly, start. Find a clearing method that works well for you.

Once you are clear and have some space, it’s time to look at what you want .  Make a list, make it big. Give your mind a “grocery list” to shop the Universe for.  

This is the point where most people do a ritual or some form of manifesting energy work, releasing into the Universe a request and waiting for return.  Sometimes this is all you need to do, if you are a close enough vibrational match and motion is already set. Often though, there is more to be done, some practical action needs to be taken. Law of Action is often overlooked or simply unknown.   

The Law of Action is important to effective manifesting of all kinds.  The key is to take inspired action.  Forcing action will simply delay you and create frustration.  You may know all the proper steps to take, however if you are forcing yourself into it, you are not a vibrational match to the fruition of the intention set out.

Recognizing resistance is immensely helpful in getting to inspired action. Any time there is action you know you need to take but feel like you are forcing it – there is resistance.  Usually the resistance is the subconscious in some way protecting you. For instance, my great-great-grandfather was showing up for me in my subconscious mind with beliefs that having my own business is too much responsibility. I come from a long line of business owners. I am the 4th out of the last 5 generations to have a business venture (all very different, none handed down). My great-great-grandfather was attempting to protect me, because in his day, the business he had was an immense responsibility. He owned the general store in a little mountain town in West Virginia. At some point before the chain stores moved in he supplied the whole town with particular goods - the town counted on him to provide those goods. This subconscious belief showed up as resistance. It showed up because I would become fearful of working with clients outside of psychic or wellness fairs. I couldn't figure out why I had such a hard time connecting with people - even people I know and love - and who love me!

The next action step wasn't the practical one many business savvy people would see. No, the proper action step was to shift the subconscious mind. You took a leap of faith placing your order with the Universe...now back it up by clearing away the blocks that cancel that order!

 The subconscious has no other interest than to protect you from harm, hurtful experiences and keep you alive. Thank it for doing a great job, extending gratitude for a job well done.  The next step – the next action – is to shift the subconscious mind, to teach it that there is another way, that in this life, in this experience, the action to take is safe. The venture is safe. That the other places and times are different and over – that you are here now. 

Yes, this is action to take. Shifting your energy and subconscious programming requires action.  Choose an action to take. Everything matters. Every action you take matters. It may begin with a candle spell, then shift into tapping, then shift into more direct subconscious changes.  It all matters.  Begin where you are and take action. The more inspired it is, the more effective it will be. 

Know that it is safe and possible for you to recognize resistance when it shows up. You can recognize it without needing to advertise it. You can find assistance to move through it if you choose; it is safe for you to do so. 

Resistance is nothing more than part of you asking for healing. As you acknowledge and allow healing to occur, the faster and easier what you want comes into being.  You become the person you seek to be faster and easier. Your life  becomes easier, and manifesting happens faster. 

This is your Divine Birthright. You deserve to have what you want, to be who you want to be, and to live a life that fills you with joy. 

Today is a great day to begin anew.  

Wishing you a 2016 filled with wonderous joy, happiness, prosperity and LOVE! 

Katie is a ThetaHealing® practitioner and Instructor, Spiritual Guide and Energy Worker. She loves helping people to heal on every level and continues on her own journey of healing heart, mind and soul. You can find her on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and at www.awakentheinnerlight.com

3 Tips To Enjoy Family More {Holidays & Healing: Family}

Happy Solstice! For those of us in the northern hemisphere, we are enjoying the shortest day of the year, and Christmas is only a few days away. 

 

With this time of year filled with holidays and the northern chill keeping many in close quarters, life is certain to be interesting. It is during these times that family patterns can be very evident. Some patterns are full of love, joy and really enjoying the company of one another. You can deepen and create more of this if you want.

Creating healthy patterns by choice goes a long way to healing the heart and soul, especially when family is involved. Conscious choices make all the difference. So, what can you do to shift patterns and enjoy family more?

1)      Be AWARE. 

Be aware without judgement. Being aware without judgement is easier to do if you realize and understand that people usually operate from subconscious programs. Family patterns are created and executed from subconscious programs. Often individuals did not create these programs themselves nor did they choose them. You may be choosing new programs, thoughts and behaviours while others remain asleep, unaware that they have choice. Knowing and understanding this allows you the space to see your family members and their patterns from a broader, kinder perspective.

For instance, let’s say your mom is really stressed about creating the perfect holiday meal. Every dish and every piece of the dinner table setting has to be perfect. Just like her mom’s or grandma’s was. This is a program. So, how do you help her stress less? Ask her what she would do if it was really all HER way. If she could do exactly what she really wanted to do, what would that be? What would that look like? What family traditions does she like to do? What parts does she really enjoy? What would she change if she felt free to do so? Then suggest she make some changes so she is happier. It might be necessary to tell her that being happy with what she’s doing is more important than keeping all the family traditions the way they have always been. 

2)      Shift Conversations

It is easier to shift conversations than it seems. Changing the subject can happen easily with the right questions. Asking questions gets people thinking. Often family gatherings trigger deep programs and emotions. Gently asking open ended questions gets people thinking, and often gives them room to discover another way of thinking. Doing so with kindness is key. 

Begin introducing conversations about ideas rather than people. Shift the conversations to the ideas people have and how they are working out for them. Be encouraging as best you can. If something isn’t working out so well, focus on what parts are working. Often people will be focusing on the failures, and really failure is nothing more than a lesson being learned. What are they learning from it? I often hear people say “Not to do that again!” and they end up throwing the baby out with the bathwater. You can actually help them see what IS working, and often they will find solutions and inspiration for a different way of going about what they are doing. 

Good questions are open ended. They get people thinking positively, their minds searching for solutions and usually inspiration shows up for them. 

A rule of thumb is to use the high school English class questions: Who, What, When, Where, How, Why. 

“Is that working out for you? What is working well?”

“Who is good at that part you need help with?”

“What is your end goal? What does it look like?”

“How can you get that to work better? That is a great idea!” 

“Why isn’t that working out? What changes can you make to get it working?” 

Ideas. Get people talking about ideas, dreams, goals.  Should they go into sarcastic remarks like “Yeah, that’ll never happen.” Ask them WHY. Ask them “If you had it all your way, what would that look like?” Then proceed to offer ideas of another way of thinking if appropriate. Be gentle and kind. You may be amazed at how easily you can shift conversations from negative to positive!

3)      Offer Praise, Acknowledgement and Recognition

People are often stuck on what is wrong. Bring up what is right! Praise them for accomplishments, big and small. Encouragement is too often tainted with negatives. You can help your family (anyone really) see what great things they have done by telling them what great things they did. They may have no idea that their smile lights up other people. So tell them.

Your sister may have no idea that her effort put into those awesome cookies is appreciated. So tell her. Share appreciation for effort made. 

The key here is sincerity. When it feels fake, they know. So do you.Sometimes the negative programs are so embedded and thick that it takes some savvy approaches to really be effective. Should you find yourself countering nearly everything someone says 180 degrees, it is time to stop and re-evaluate. In these cases, it is important to "pick your battles", and pick them wisely. This is great exercise in listening without responding. 

Respond mindfully, gently and with short questions or offers of ideas. For instance, say your brother is a humungo complainer - about everything and everyone, (this is an example of that scenario where you would be countering everything 180 degrees) and you would like to have better, healthier conversations with him.  First, listen without responding much. Phrases such as "Ah." "Hmm, interesting." "Well," "I don't keep up with that stuff" and other non-committal, non-encouraging phrases and words can quickly diffuse the complainer because you aren't feeding the negativity. This works well with superficial space filling chatter. 

So now you have diffused the chatter and the conversation has turned to something that really is important to your brother. Amid all the negativity, you can see this really is important. Listening attentively is key here. You are looking for the places to offer encouragement and new ideas, new perspectives. 

I was going to offer an example here, but could not find anything easy to do. This is not the easiest subject, and you and your family are different from any other. This is a journey of developing skills. You are intuitive, you know when and where what is appropriate. You know, even if you think you don't. Trust your intuition and ask Spirit, Creator, Angels, whomever you choose for guidance. You can do this!

 

Even if you get poo-pooed a bit, keep it up. Be the light. Bring the love. Keep bringing it. Your family will see the difference. It only takes one person to begin shifting patterns. As you grow and learn, you can take that into your family too. 

The ripple effect is powerful! 

Chances are good that you love your family, even if you don’t like how they behave. Most people want to see their family happy and healthy. Sometimes though, walking away is the best thing to do. If you are at that point, it’s OK. Know that as you grow, learn and heal that your family will receive benefit from that, even if you aren’t in physical contact. Eventually you may be able to reconnect with them later on. 

Family has a way of triggering us like no one else. Should you find yourself triggered, it is OK to step back and collect yourself. You can work your own healing magic right away or set it aside until you are able to focus better on it. 

The best gift you can give your family – and yourself – is a happier, healthier YOU. Happiness, joy, health and love are all journeys, there is no end destination.

 Life is fluid, always moving, always growing, always shifting and changing. It’s OK for you to be on a journey!  Your family is going with you to some degree whether they realize it or not. Might as well share your joy and journey with them. Observe the patterns. Offer re-enforcement of healthy ones, and gently offer ideas and guide the shift of negative ones. You can do this without telling anyone they are wrong.  In fact, telling them they are wrong is a sure-fire way to trigger the crap out of them and get nothing but resistance. 

So be kind.

 Sometimes saying nothing in the moment is best. Allow yourself the time and space to formulate responses as needed. It’s OK to think on what someone says before responding. 

You really do have the power to help those you love move closer to happiness and healthy relationships. It may take time and clever responses, and I assure you, it is worth it.  

Happy Holidays from my family to yours! 

 May your holidays hail a new beginning of relationships

Full of love, joy and great communication. 

May your love and joy overflow and fuel the flames of passion

For life, for breath, for living your dreams. 

May you always recognize the Divine Support available to you

And seize every opportunity presented you with exuberance and faith. 

May your exuberance and faith fuel your trust in the Divine.

 

 

Katie is a ThetaHealing® practitioner and Instructor, Spiritual Guide and Energy Worker. She loves helping people to heal on every level and continues on her own journey of healing heart, mind and soul. You can find her on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and at www.awakentheinnerlight.com

 

Holidays & Healing Your Inner Child

Full Moon November 2015 

As we move in to the winter in the northern hemisphere, we are called to go within. The Full Moon of November has asked us to release what no longer serves. It is a time of quiet reflection, and time in solitude is important. 

Do you find it challenging or difficult to go within and really see what needs releasing? Sometimes it can be hard, especially when it is deep or deals with family and loved ones. It’s even harder when you are with family, get all triggered up and have no idea why. 

The holidays are a great catalyst to healing work, especially healing the inner child. Last week when my dad was here for Thanksgiving, I realized that I was a bit wonky. It felt like my energy was everywhere, nothing really settled. I was told by a great friend to work with the inner child, because she gets triggered when my dad is around. 

So of course, I went to work.  Interestingly enough, not only did my inner child need to know that it’s ok to be an adult when Daddy’s around – but that she can have a sense of self. 

Small children don’t have a sense of self, but are developing one. They are very sensitive to the responses and reactions of their care takers. As children are in a dominant Theta brainwave until they are 6 or 7 years old, everything they hear, see and experience goes right to the subconscious mind as programs. These messages received from the parents shape the development of the self of the child. 

My little sister and I.

 

DISCLAIMER:   I am not a psychologist or social worker – I have only read much and done a lot of healing myself. I do have a deep spiritual connection, and draw from that.

What I do know is that when my Daddy is around, I am not the Katie that I know as a Spiritual Guide, Energy Worker, and ThetaHealer®.  I am not even the wife that I know.  No. My inner child, the one who was neglected, forgotten at parties while her parents drugged and drank, crying in the crib, left to her own devices comes to the surface. She comes to ask for healing. She comes to learn what safety feels like. For years I could not hear her. 

THIS year however, is different.  The self-awareness is different than ever before. See, during a Divine Money course, I got triggered…hard.  I have had this sensation in my back for nearly a month. I know it’s not a physical problem. No, this is entirely spiritual notification that something needs healing. 

The thing is, I can’t see it. Oh, I have tried! I have asked to talk to this sensation. I have gone to do a reading to see what is up. However, the subconscious knows that this issue is painful – and blocks me away from it. What this looks like for me is I feel like I am going to fall asleep. My eyes get heavy and I feel like I could take a nap!  So, herein lies my gratitude for fellow psychics. I can do this healing for myself, however, help was necessary to see where to go do some healing. 

In talking to my lovely psychic friend Dee, she saw the inner child. She told me to have a conversation with my inner child and to teach her. So that’s what I did. Right away I began doing healing work.

I found I had no sense of self.  I gave it away, to my daddy, to my husband, to men. 

OH. MY. 

Well, no wonder I struggled so around family! The knowledgeable, spiritual guide disappears when I am around my family of origin. Now I even understand why I was so hesitant for my husband to come to particular places with me – those were my safe places, where I could be an authority on something – my spiritual techniques, modality and spirituality. Enter my husband and BAM – sense of self diminished.

After working on that and getting a sense of self, and keeping it, the energy and interactions with my dad and husband changed.  I feel stronger. I feel a sense of me, even when I am with them. I feel OK being me and being knowledgeable. 

Christmas at my grandma's house

 

There is still more healing to do. This has been a magnificent start in this particular arena. These are abuse issues coming up and they can be very difficult for one to see for themselves. Abuse can be taken on in various ways – from something as severe as molestation or being beaten to children teasing each other on the playground. For me, teasing was very hurtful. Chances are good there are lots of abuse issues needing healing, and to many might seem silly. 

If you have ever really wondered where the kindness is in the world – you may be dealing with energies and programs of abuse, even if it makes no sense or there is no history of what would be obvious abuse. How it got there matters not. The details really don’t matter at all. What does matter is how it affects you and whether or not you heal from it. 

It might take time, and that’s ok. Peeling back layers is ok. Using various techniques is ok. Personally, I like seeing therapists. I go get triggered all to smithereens then either clear it myself or work on it in session swaps with colleagues. 

The holidays, regardless of what holidays you celebrate, are a great time to be really self-aware. Most people spend more time with their family of origin. If this time is stressful, or you dread it – chances are good you are being triggered. Your inner child may be asking for help.  Ask what your inner child needs. Going into meditation and having a conversation with your inner child can be magnificently healing. As an adult now, you can give your inner child the love, acceptance and feeling of safety that might be missing. You can teach your inner child that there is a safe place to be! 

Use the holidays to take a look and be aware of issues coming up asking to be healed. It is worth it. Get help if you need to.  If you have trouble seeing what it is, then help is really needed to see what it is. It’s ok!

You deserve to have the happiest life you can have – and that includes being able to hold that happiness during holidays, and any time you are with your family of origin. 

You are loved, greatly. 

 

You are worthy of happiness. 

 

You deserve to have a strong sense of self. 

 

You deserve to enjoy your life and all the celebrations you choose to engage in. 

It is your life. Not your parents’ life. Not your family of origin’s life. Your life. It is possible to maintain your own inner sense of peace, joy and happiness regardless of who you are around. 

That power is yours. 

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