Here in the U.S., Thanksgiving is just a few days away. As we enter into the holiday season, families come together, often joking about a particular member, or reminiscing about times gone by. Some look forward to reuniting with family they haven’t seen in a long time, while others feel trepidation.
Whether dealing with a dysfunctional family or a healthy one, the holidays are a magnificent time to discover hidden beliefs, programs, fears and resentments. Some of these aren’t even yours, but are encoded into your DNA and passed down through generations.
One of the biggest things I see missing in the energy work communities is the understanding of how deep beliefs and programs can be. Even worse, many think they have cleared these beliefs when they haven’t. Most people are working on the surface, or “core” level. In ThetaHealing®, the “core level” is this lifetime, the surface. This is where I see many, many people working – and doing a wonderful job of it too. Yet if you have done much of this work and still find yourself coming up to blocks, fears and being triggered, there is another angle to check out.
There are much deeper levels than what our conscious mind perceives. The “genetic, history, and soul” levels are accessed much less often than the “core level”, or the connection between the deeper level and current experiences isn’t recognized. Typically, genetic and history level issues aren’t even ours really. They are part of the DNA we chose to incarnate into, ancestral or past life issues. From the soul perspective before incarnating into this life, we chose DNA that would best support us on our journey, mission, and evolution. Then we took on the supportive and not-so-supportive programs of our family’s genetics.
In this time and place, we also have the opportunity to change far more of our “karmic baggage” than ever before, which is on the history level. Most often, I see karmic ties not as debt, but guilt. As for the “soul level”, there is little that I have seen so far that is *only* on the soul level. For now, let us focus on what family is showing, and if it’s on the soul level as well as others, that’s OK. It’s just part of the evolution, learning and growing.
There is nothing like family (genetic and chosen) to provide mirrors and triggers to help us uncover unresolved issues. Vianna Stibal, the founder of ThetaHealing, has talked about everything she has worked on going back to family. She says: “No matter what I was working on, whether I was addressing issues related to work, relationships, abundance, or things happening in society, I would discover programs involving my father, my mother, my grandparents, or my sisters. I came to feel that the family is the key. That the family holds the keys to opening up all life of one’s life.”
So, take the opportunities given, and allow yourself to recognize what might be showing up for you that you’ve overlooked or just not seen before. Be the observer, setting judgement and criticalness aside.
Here are 7 common issues people experience during holidays, and possible beliefs (programs) to work on. Remember, even if you think you don’t have these beliefs or anything like them, there may still be something to shift.
1) Being expected to babysit the young ones, or keep elders company without being asked
Possible beliefs/programs:
Obligated to take care of others
While many think this is nearly exclusively something women deal with, it is important to realize that men deal with this too. The obligation to take care of others can run very, very deep and have many facets. Step back and become the observer of your own thoughts and feelings as they are clues to the actual beliefs and programs deep within.
Releasing obligations frees you to do things willingly, by choice. When you choose it because you want to, you feel joy rather than anger and resentment. Also, everyone involved gets released from the obligation of obligating you. This means they are free to ask with kindness rather than treating you with that air of expectation. This alone can make huge shifts in your relationships!
2) Family member questioning your lifestyle choices – why you are single, don’t have kids, don’t want kids (or want many), homeschool, your job/work choices, etc.
Possible beliefs/programs:
Lack of trust.
Even if you think you have trust, in yourself, your abilities, your choices, God/Universe/Creator/Source, somewhere it may be missing. Listen to the family members you’re around and see if you can spot a lack of trust. Also pay attention to your feelings and thoughts if you feel triggered. Set judgement and criticism aside, observe and take note.
3) “Politically incorrect” remarks or jokes
Possible beliefs/programs:
genetic prejudice
If we go back far enough in genetics and history, we all have at least residues of prejudice. While our conscious minds are accepting of all people, because they’re people, that doesn’t mean we are prejudice free. This can be layers and layers of work to do! It is vitally important that you do two things with this:
1) Step back and observe yourself, and your family, without criticalness or judgement.
2) Look for how this may have served ancestors, or even you in this life.
When you have more understanding of how prejudice may have made life better (kept ancestors safe, tribal/community acceptance) or recognize the pain and anger caused by whom the prejudice is against (raiders, imperialists, warring tribes), it is easier to allow compassion and love to come in and heal the wounding.
Even when we think we are free of prejudice, if we keep digging, and looking, there is likely something to be found. There is a ThetaHealing® course about this - World Relations. The goal here is to raise the love, and to do that even more, it is important to be honest and compassionate with yourself first, and to make changes to expand your own capacity for love.
4) Sibling rivalry (or rivalry of any kind)
Possible beliefs/programs:
Resentment / Need to prove yourself
Resentment and grudges take up a lot of energy and brainspace. The more you can release the better! When you release resentment and grudges, you actually open more space for psychic abilities. Keeping those psychic abilities at bay could be the motivation behind a refusal to let things go.
You could be carrying resentment and grudges from ancestors that you don't know about. There is also some belief in the mass consciousness that sibling rivalry is normal, and even expected.
5) That family member who criticizes everything, finding the tiniest fault.
Possible beliefs/programs:
I can never do anything right / I must never fail/make mistakes
There are many, many possible roots for this. It could be the ancestor who was unwanted, either by their own parents or a step-parent. This could stem from an ancestor who was left with their grandparents or another family member because their parents had no means to take care of them. It may not be an ancestor, it could be your own experience. It could be both as well.
In the modern culture, there is this idea that making the fewest mistakes makes us smart. This is proven in the school system. Those who make the least mistakes are the A students! The idea that making mistakes is a bad thing has instilled fear because mistakes bring punishment. This often means that fear is what keeps many from going for their passion and developing their own genius. So if you are on the journey of creating your life and living your purpose but keep running into walls – this may be something to look at more deeply.
These can also hide in thoughts like "I'm just driven to get it right", "If I get it wrong I'm doomed". Be mindful of potential excuses that explain perfectionism as they could be clues to beliefs you've yet to become aware of.
6) Being responsible for hosting, (maybe even cooking everything), without being asked or help offered.
Possible beliefs/programs:
I have to do it all myself / No one ever helps me / No one respects/values me
Do you often feel like “I have to do it all myself”? Usually, this one is pretty evident. However, if you have done a lot of healing work around this, you may have cleared the core level, but not the genetics or history. If this is the case for you, you may see the genetic and history levels showing up in your family of origin and the expectations you feel from them. If this is where you are, then this is a great indication that the belief or program has deeper roots.
7) Feeling lonely and misunderstood
Possible beliefs/programs:
I am separate / unworthy / undeserving
These could be very, very deep and old religious beliefs. Even if you know beyond knowing that you are a spark of Divine, of God, of Creation, your genetics and history may be holding religious teachings of being separate from God. Consider this: we have 2,000 years of Christianity in various forms that say humans are separate from God, which is rooted in Judaism (as for Islam, I don’t know enough about that to speak of it, so if you do, I welcome your kind sharing). Add to this the teachings of “original sin” and there may be massive roots here. For thousands of years teachings that humans are separate from God, and unworthy of Divine Unconditional Love have created mass consciousness programs over many cultures. This has the potential to create the need to prove one’s self to be worthy of love.
I am here to co-create a new world
The saying “If you feel like you don’t fit into this world, it’s because you are here to help create a new one” is spot on here. Many people today feel like they don’t fit in – anywhere. Sure you’ve got friends and people who love you and whom you love, but something is still just “off”. There are things you can’t share because they just don’t get it. That’s OK. You are here to co-create the new paradigm, and there ARE people who get this part of you – you just have to find them.
Vianna says "Ultimately, the ties we have with our family may be either shackles that limit our freedom or bonds that make us stronger"
I have seen first hand how making changes in myself, and in my genetics, changes relationships both with my parents and my children. While I still don't talk to my sister, I hear she is doing better than she has in quite some time. I don't know if that is linked to any of the work I have done, but I wouldn't be suprised if there is some bit that she has benefitef from. When you make changes on the genetic level, it can ripple out through all those you are genetically connected with, if they are ready and willing to accept the shift. It is quite an adventure!
You have more power than you realize over the relationships you have. While you cannot change someone else, you can change your energy and how you interact. This in turn changes how others respond to you. What you choose to do today and moving forward is up to you. The key, first and foremost is always to be self-aware, and to do so as an observer without criticalness or judgement. The holidays are here. You have an opportunity to dive deeper into your own subconscious and energy. Make the best of it.
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